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August 29, 2012

harmony, respect and acknowledgment

Having gone through the trials and tribulations of raising two children to independence, and having survived some very tough times in a twenty-four year marriage, Phillipa has always demanded harmony, respect and acknowledgment in her worklife as an inalienable right and she believes it is not only responsible for keeping her sane but also responsible for her career success as well.

"I was hired by a global corporation as a consultant manager to help resolve the high rate of attrition of its female employees and it didn't take me long to work out what the problem was at this place," says Phillipa. "As a result of my managerial skills and recommendations I don't think the company will have any more problems."

"The company was too male-centric," says Phillipa, "and being a woman I know that women resign jobs for the same reasons they quit relationships!"

"When a job or a relationship lacks harmony, respect and acknowledgment of our worth," says Phillipa, "no woman in her right mind stays. A sane woman, one who wants to thrive in life - in work and relationships - gets out fast before her dignity is compromised."

"For most woman, no amount of money can compensate for lack of warm and fuzzy feelings at work - or in our personal lives - and this is so different from men!"

"The desire for more money and more status tend to be the prime reasons why men resign jobs," says Phillipa, "but lack of money and status just don't feature highly in the reasons women give for resigning."

"Other factors are far more important to women," explains Phillipa, "and employers who wish to retain valuable female staff would be well advised to pay attention to what women hate about their jobs."

"Generally," says Phillipa, "because of their responsibilities at home, and an innate desire for harmony, women tend to be far more loyal to employers than men are - and far more tolerant of minor work problems, too."

"Most women workers are in low-level jobs and are quite happy to stay there. As long as they are getting paid and they are not stressed out by impossible deadlines - and their co-workers are pleasant - I believe that women tend to hum along quite nicely in jobs for years and years."

"They can do this," explains Phillipa, "because the focus of their lives is at home, not at work."

Phillipa believes that when employers impose too heavily on female staff, the women start thinking about resigning.

"The workplace is not the center of their lives - as it often is for men," explains Phillipa, "and when employers expect women workers to have the same work ethic as men they make a big mistake."

"More and more women are being required to sacrifice home and family to match the male work ethic," says Phillipa, "but this doesn't sit well with the female psyche."

"The vast majority of women are working for personal fulfillment - and basic money to feed their children," says Phillipa. "They are not working for the big salaries and job status that drive men and superwomen."

"Flexible working hours are very important to women," says Phillipa, "but no woman is likely to resign a job because she is required to work after hours occasionally."

"What women do hate about their jobs - and are most likely to resign about - are stressful working conditions and unpleasant co-workers or managers."

"Male workers often enjoy the cut and thrust of tense working relationships and thrive on challenges and competition and sabotage," says Phillipa, "but women often have enough of this at home with difficult partners and children to be bothered to put up with it at work."

"Going to work is something a lot of women do in order to get a bit of piece and quiet," laughs Phillipa. "I know I do!"

Having gone through the trials and tribulations of raising two children to independence, and having survived some very tough times in a twenty-four year marriage, Phillipa believes that the least a job can give her is harmony, respect and acknowledgement of her worth, and it's this personal experience that makes her managerial skills so sought after.

"I demand those three magic ingredients -- harmony, respect and acknowledgment -- in my working environment," says Phillipa, "and I see no reason why they should not be given to women even in the lowest of positions."

"Costwise, it's the cheapest and most effective management tool there is!"

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